Tuesday, April 10, 2018


A while back, I read a quote that says, "You could be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, but there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches." 

How true is that? Insanely true, you guys. Seriously true. You won't be everyone's cup of tea, no matter what you do. So why are we so bent on perfection? Why do we hold ourselves up to such high standards? Why are we so afraid of letting others see our shortcomings and the things we could improve on?

Credit: Merriam-Webster

For the record, this doesn't exist in humans. No one is flawless. No one is free from fault or defect. We all have issues, problems, reasons why we're not "perfect." And guess what?

That's perfection in and of itself. 

No, really. It is. It's flawless to have flaws. Because we're human. And we're not perfect. We're going to make mistakes. We're going to mess up. We're going to have days when we don't feel like being "on." And that's okay. It's what makes us so amazing.

Because it means we have the ability to change. To get better.

If we were perfect, we'd have no room for growth. And I don't know about you, but that frightens me. Maybe it's the perfectionist in me that always wants to grow and get better, but I'm starting to see this as a good thing - and not the enemy. Because perfectionism drives me to grow, to change, to be better than I was yesterday. And that's good. We need to make progress. We don't need to be perfect though.

There's nothing inherently wrong with striving for perfect. Trying to be the best at something can cultivate personal growth, spark invention, and alert us to things we need to work on or fix. But It's how we strive to get there and the underlying motivation that can make the idea unhealthy. When we try to be flawless in a job or a relationship, we're actively trying to be someone for someone else. We're not being ourselves or living our own truth. And that's why perfection feels so tough and yucky sometimes.

Because it's not for us.

But it can be. Instead of striving to be perfect for someone else, we can strive to be our perfect selves. And that's your whole "imperfect" situation you have going on right now. Living your truth and being who you are - those things are beautiful, and that's what makes you perfect as a human being. Being true to you.

So feel free to let go of the idea of perfection when it comes to outside sources. Yes, you should be good at your job, and yes, you should be a good partner in a relationship you want to be in. Make moves in your life when you feel like things aren't fitting. Because that's part of your truth too. And then just be perfect at being you. Which you're already doing because you are you. And that's amazing.

Don't worry about being perfect. You already are.

Truly. You are. You don't have to believe me, but that won't make it not true. You won't be perfect for everyone, but you're perfect for yourself. And, since you can't please everyone, work on pleasing yourself. Live your truth, chase your goals, and find your dream. You should enjoy your life and make sure you are happy, healthy, and taken care of.

So let it go. Let it all go. Right now, take a deep breath, hold it for two seconds, and then let it all out. When you breathe in again, imagine you're breathing in so much love and beauty. Hold that love and beauty inside you for two beats and feel the warmth and joy of it in your lungs. And, when you release that breath, imagine you're exhaling even more love and beauty than there was before into the world. Because you're capable of doing that, you know. You can create such love and beauty with a single breath.

How's that for perfection? ;)

PS - Tell me in the comments what you're grateful for! I'd love to hear that. And I'd super appreciate it if you'd check out my brand-new journal, the Creatives Edition! You can find out more about all of my journals by clicking right here. Thank you so much. I appreciate you and all you do. <3


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